Take a moment to pause and observe your feelings. But there’s one condition: Do not judge them, criticize them, or categorize them as good or bad… Does it sound difficult? It is for most of us. One of the most common reactions we have is to suppress or ignore our emotions. However, suppressed emotions don’t disappear; they are merely buried deeper and resurface with even greater intensity over time.
But what if you welcomed your emotions like guests? Invited them in and listened to them quietly… What if you became curious about what they were trying to tell you? Every emotion carries a message. Maybe it’s an unmet need, a boundary that has been crossed, or an old wound that has reopened. If you suppress your emotions without understanding their message, do you think they won’t come back even stronger?
Now, let’s try an experiment: Instead of ignoring your emotions, let’s try to understand them. First, recognize them, then accept them, and finally, explore what they are trying to tell you.
How Can We Accept Our Emotions?
Name What You’re Feeling.
Start by asking yourself: “What exactly am I feeling right now?” Are you sad, angry, or disappointed? Putting your feelings into words makes them more tangible and easier to understand.
Identify the Source of Your Emotion.
“When did this emotion arise?” “What affected me the most?” “What is this feeling trying to tell me?”
Sometimes, even a small incident can touch a deep wound. Recognizing your triggers helps you understand yourself better. If you find this difficult, seeking professional support can provide you with valuable insights.
Remember That Emotions Are Temporary.
You might feel overwhelmed right now, but no emotion lasts forever. Emotions come and go. Instead of trying to suppress them, allow them to pass like waves, and you will find yourself feeling more balanced.
Remember, your emotions are not your enemy; on the contrary, they are guides trying to tell you something important about yourself. When you choose to listen to them instead of suppressing them, you can build a healthier relationship with yourself and take more confident steps in life. And most importantly, don’t forget to be kind to yourself throughout this process!